Time passes, everything changes, but there is one thing that never changes:
There are many things in the world that do not go as we wish.
As a poem says: sighing about life, there are often things that are not as we wish.
Perhaps it is because of this that people continue to breathe and worry.
But life is not just like this.
Because we realize our own insignificance, we can calmly accept the grandeur and impermanence of the world.
Because we understand that happiness cannot be obtained from external sources, we can coexist peacefully with unfavorable circumstances.
When you can allow everything in the world to happen, you break free from the constraints of the world and become incredibly powerful.
Source: Panoramic Vision Allows You to Be Less Lucky
We long to be lucky, like Jia Baoyu in our childhood, who was loved and protected from birth.
It seems that there is nothing he cannot obtain in the world, and he should live without worries.
But the reality is not like that.
His noble status did not bring him a truly worry-free life.
He has the same seven emotions and six desires as everyone else, and he has his own thoughts and judgments. These things give him the title of "the devil of the world," but they cannot free him from the worries of the world.
Therefore, there is no absolute luck in this world.
Some things are like arsenic in our eyes, but honey in the eyes of others.
Accepting our own misfortune and imperfection, even some bad things, can be easier to let go.
Just like Shi Tiesheng, at the peak of his life, he was struck by illness and paralyzed.
Although there were many times when he couldn't accept it in the middle, after accepting it, we saw the famous writer Shi Tiesheng.
In terms of fate, everyone's life is random.
A true strong person will embrace this randomness and accept the good and the bad.
Only by reconciling with fate can we see our own brilliant world.
Source: Panoramic Vision Allows Friends to Drift Away
As adults, we often lament:
Childhood friendships were free from ulterior motives, so they could be pure and lasting;
Adult friendships are often based on interests, and there is not much sincerity.
This statement is true and false.
Adult friendships do involve interests, but because of these interests, they are managed with care. Although this management may not be pure, the closeness of the relationships is genuine.
Childhood friendships were based on mutual understanding and shared interests, and the sincerity was unquestionable. But as time goes by, the intersections between individuals become fewer and fewer. Even if there is still contact, it is maintained through memories and emotional connections.
People who come together because of interests become more and more inseparable. But the deep affection from the past gradually becomes powerless in the face of reality, and eventually drifts away.
After realizing this, there is no need to be puzzled by why classmates seem distant when they meet at class reunions; why someone you used to be close to now feels like a stranger.
After accepting this, there is no need to complain about why people in the world of fame and fortune suddenly appear and disappear. You can understand your own value in the eyes of others.
Allow friends to drift away, because reality is not a fairy tale, and we are mere mortals.
Therefore, with less complaints, blame, and disappointment, we can feel light-hearted. We can go with the flow in any relationship.
Source: Panoramic Vision Allows for Occasionally Frustrating Days
Perhaps you have put in all your effort to obtain a high education, and you have stayed in an enviable high-paying job, but you are often suffocated by work pressure.
Perhaps you have met a soulmate with whom you are willing to commit yourself for a lifetime, but fate has forced someone you don't love upon you.
Perhaps you have no worries about food and clothing, and you are financially well-off. You are usually generous and never owe anyone anything, but in the face of unexpected events, you are no different from anyone else.
Underneath seemingly calm days, there are countless frustrating experiences.
Do you cry? Do you complain? Do you seek justice from the heavens?
But afterwards, the suffering and hardships you have to endure are no less.
Allowing everything to happen, rather than trying to control life, gives you more power.
Because life often goes beyond your control, but by allowing unexpected events, you have the power to adjust your direction, change your strategy, and shift your mindset. You can find a new path for yourself instead of self-inflicting pain and confinement.
The wise way to live is to allow first, and then change.
Instead of blindly complaining about why things are the way they are.
What often traps a person is not life itself, but their perspective.
Just like Su Shi, when he went to the distant Danzhou, the locals only knew how to eat taro and drink plain water.
If he wanted an explanation from heaven for his eventful life, he probably wouldn't have lived to see the day he went to Danzhou.
By allowing frustrating days, he discovered the deliciousness of oysters in Danzhou, just like when he was exiled to Huangzhou, he discovered the deliciousness of pork.
The beauty of life is often hidden.
It is hidden behind setbacks, beneath sadness, and in the darkest nights.
Allow everything to happen, and then, with eyes searching for beauty, explore, discover, and even create.
Don't be a supporting character in your own destiny, be the protagonist of your own life.
Although the script may not be to your liking, you have control over your performance.
Source: Panoramic Vision Allows for a Battle with Fate for Many Years, and I increasingly agree with a saying: everything happens for the best.
Believe that heaven does not favor anyone.
Believe that setbacks are meant to make you grow;
Believe that exhaustion is meant to give you a chance to rest;
Believe that loss is meant to wait for something better...
Allow everything to happen, and you will encounter all possibilities.
Life is a journey, don't take it too seriously, don't hold grudges against yourself.
By resisting everything, you cannot even control yourself;
By letting go, you can have the whole world.